Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Not Called to Have a Large Family

Comment: You make everyone that doesn't have a big family out to be not following God's plan. How do you know what His plan is for me? For the next person? You don't. You feel called to have a large family, go for it. We do not feel called to. Period.

Reply: I don't know how many is right for you or me. None of us know how many is "right". That's the point...we leave it ALL up to GOD. Some of us "quiverfull" couples have 1 or 2 children, some have none, while others have 19. The point is...NO HUMAN knows how many is "right" and "perfect". That's why we leave it ALL up to God. It's really as simple as that. We let GOD, and God alone, decide when and IF to create souls within our wombs. Oh, and all Christians should feel "called" to obeying God's Word and to let Him have control over creating eternal beings for His Glory, not for our convenience and on our time schedule.

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shelli said...

I truly admire you Lisa for your faith in God planning the size of your family. I have six precious children. However, I remember after the first two babies I wasn't so thrilled to be having another so quickly. When I got to the end of the pregnancies I would feel nervous and excited to meet our newest addition. I always would fall in love all over again with each new babe. Do you ever have a weak moment and feel anxious over your growing family?

Lisa (Lively) Metzger said...

Shelli, I made a separate post on this because I think it's a GREAT subject. But here's my thoughts....

I think that since we are all human, we all have doubts and fears. I might not appear to have those same doubts and fears, but I do on occasion. The thing that I have learned to do is to follow the clear instructions on how to handle our earthly fears and doubts when we know that those feelings are against the Word of God. 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." Every time I have one of those thoughts regarding my inadequacies or what could be if we decided to stop having children now, I take hold of those thoughts and quote the Scriptures I know to be true in regards to letting God plan our family and create souls as He deems best for us. When I follow those seemingly simple instructions, I do not have time to voice my fears or let them take over my thought life.

Another favorite quote I heard is: "You will never regret having one more, but you may always regret having one less." As you said, as a mom you always find that love in your heart for your child the moment you hold him or her in your arms. There is never any regret once you see that precious soul in front of you!


CappuccinoLife said...


People take offense where none is intended. I have a small family. I am "quiverfull". God's calling for us is apparently not a dozen plus, and that is OK. Most large families I know totally understand this and do not judge us on the basis of family size. Because they know that's not the point.

The point is not to close our marriage to God's blessings in the form of children. That is all. There is no magic number, there is no extra-special bonus for having more and demerits for having fewer. It's about the heart.