"Argh, I don’t want to even really talk about the weekend. The praying part was very good. The alone time with the Lord was very good. And the service on Sunday was a very good message. And the time I had to get to know, and do a little preaching myself to, the ladies that I went with was also good. But the rest, *sigh*. The ladies all seemed to be working, and hating their jobs, those who stayed at home were miserable at home and unhappy with their husbands."
"But if **from there** you seek the LORD your God, you will find
him if you look for him with all your heart and with all your soul."Deuteronomy 4:29
We do not NEED to go somewhere else to find God or to get closer to Him. He's always with us and available to us, but we need to take the time to seek Him! The mountain-top spiritual experience of retreats is not enough to propel us through until the next scheduled spiritual event. Daily time with God is necessary for the happiness we all want in life.
The "happiness is found in me-time" is a myth. Those who fall for that myth (whether disguised as a "Bible study" retreat or not) are either be searching for true time with God, are self-centered or just plain misdirected. The women looking for "me-time" will be just as unhappy when they get home as they were when they left, if they don't understand and embrace their true callings as a Christian woman. They have no idea how good it could be, if they just followed the Biblical role clearly laid out before them in Scripture. Overall, Christian women don't know what they are yearning for, and that's the problem. We all have what we need and desire right here within our four walls of our home. It's when we go out of those walls (either via the phone, the internet, TV, pop-culture, etc.) that we start believing that we are deprived and in need of being revived. Yes, a weekly date with hubby or daily Bible reading time is nice and needed. BUT I think that the Church has bought into the worldly reasoning of this "me-time" thing; they have marketed it to women and peppered their events with speakers, prayer time and such. These can be good events, but not always the best.
"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your
heart." Jeremiah 29:13
"Good is often the enemy of the best." Oswald Chambers
Another problem is that at those retreats and getaways is that women are left in the off-time with idle hands and chattering lips. The dominant ones take over the conversations, indoctrinating the other women on what's good and bad in the life of a stay at home mom. The women stop exhorting, and start gossiping or complaining. Where did that Titus 2 way of thinking go? Where are the older ones consistently mentoring the younger ones in sound doctrine? I just don't see that, in general, in the Church these days...in any denomination.