Pregnancy Announcement Etiquette 101: When someone announces a pregnancy, 1st or 19th, it is RUDE to ask "another one?" or "don't you know what causes that?" or "Boy, you already have your hands full, don'tcha?" The ONLY PROPER response is CONGRATULATIONS! If you aren't happy for them, don't say anything. It steals their JOY for that moment! Plus, it's down right RUDE!!! - Marla Kracke
Comment: "Thank you Lisa, but can you add that also goes for adopting? I mean to say "more kids" , or "starting over again you could be having tea and retiring". I just want to say to them. I am not old."
My Thoughts: Yes, it can. But, honestly, I think more of society looks upon adoption as being more socially acceptable than actually conceiving another child. I get the, "You're pregnant with number NINE?!?" thing with a look of horror, but when they hear that we adopted three of those 9, they say things like, "That is so awesome", "I'm glad you open your home to children in need of homes, TOO" or such as that. It's almost as though if it were 9 biological that we had, they'd be all negative, but because we have adopted three, they'll give us credit for being benevolent souls and give us a free pass to "over populate" once more.
When you hand your womb over to God, all kinds of people and rude comments come out to jab you. I just wish children – conceived within the womb or within the heart – could ALL be considered blessings from Jesus in any way God chooses to send them! God NEVER creates mistakes. We're never too old to parent children OR birth the ones HE creates. Menopause is GOD turning off our biological clocks!