Reposted from October 2010
Well, we are just honest with them on all accounts. As they ask questions about life, we do not hide things or cringe, but instead we share with them in as much detail as they are able to handle at whatever age they are presently.
When we read passages of the Bible, we do not omit anything. We answer all questions as they arise (if they even arise). Our church read through parts of the Old Testament 2 years ago and they heard some pretty graphic accounts of what God wanted us to know about the battles and such. Just as Joshua read that Book of the Law to all people...young, old, and even nursing infants, so we too must read God's Word and be open to what God wants to show each of us.
Because we read the Biblical accounts of sin and sinners, our children are already aware of how sinful we are, as humans. They know that we are all desperately wicked (Jeremiah 17:9) and that we all need Jesus! Because of their simple, child-like understanding of sin vs. holiness, they are much more capable of grasping the evil that is in our world.
When we discuss why a mother would choose to kill her own child, we simply tell them that mothers are in different situations and feel as though they are unable to parent their child in their tummy. We tell them that they have been told that the child within them is not human, so they are not always aware that what they are doing is wrong. We tell them that the moms and dads need to hear the truth about their baby and know that we are there to help them in any way they need help. We are there to show them the truth about their baby and (if we get to talk to them) their need for Jesus. They do know that babies do die at the abortion mill each day and they also pray that the moms, as they exit (looking maimed and half-drunk on meds), will listen to our post-abortive counseling and will be able to be led to Jesus.
They know who the abortionist is, as he addresses us when he enters, confronting the children as to why they are there instead of playing (our children's responses are gentle, but oh so truthful!). They know that he is an evil man who knows what he's doing and does it anyway. We show them the parrellel truths between the abortionist's actions and this Bible verse: "For this people's heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.'" Matthew 13:15 Through this one-on-one teaching in REAL LIFE circumstances, they have learned about how hearts become hardened and proceed in sin. They know John Bradford's famous saying of truth, "but for the grace of God go I" and that this abortionist is never beyond Jesus' saving touch. We pray for him and all the clinic employees as a family.
We do leave out some of the details of the procedures until we are asked and we know that they are able to handle that much information. We are always there to answer any questions that might arise, although they really haven't asked about anything we haven't covered.
So, to sum it all up....they know the basics, and as their age allows, they know more and more. Their knowledge of the Bible really prepared and continues to teach them all that anyone needs to know about sin and the sinners that are in our world today.
There are so many valuable life lessons that our children learn while involved in this ministry. They have learned to be "wise as serpents, innocent as doves" (Matthew 10:16). They are so much more spiritually mature in so many, many ways than most adult Christians are. I am so grateful for the opportunity to show my children first-hand that people need Jesus and need us to show Jesus to them in love. Our world truly is a sad and unholy place, but we can't place our children in boxes, keeping them from knowing (to some extent) how evil and in need of Jesus this world really is. The truth of sin and the knowledge that all of us need Jesus to be saved from eternal damnation is what causes children to be sincere about telling people about Jesus. It lights a fire under them to act on what they have seen; to stop injustices and to preach the Gospel before it's too late.
For more on why we believe that it is important for our children to be directly involved in this ministry, see HERE.