Comment: I think this is a personal matter between a couple and God. If you feel God calling you to have another child, fine. Many people feel God is *not* calling them to do so. It's important to listen to God's voice in this matter.
Response: Thank you for taking the time to comment.
You are correct on a few points.
1) It is VITALLY important to hear God's voice in this matter! How do we hear His voice? How do we know his heart? How has he chosen to impart His Will to us? Through the Bible. Have you really searched the Scriptures to know God's heart on family planning? If not, He is outspoken on the matter. I encourage you to look and to keep reading.
2) All choices, whether GOOD or BAD, are between God and the person who is making those choices. The responsibility of choosing what is godly and scriptural is on the shoulders of the individual (or couple) who is making those choices. However, when someone has come to know and understand the truth in any spiritual matter, they are required by Scripture to speak the truth in love. That is my intention with anything I ever post on family planning on my blog.
The problem with feeling that one thing is biblical for one couple and not biblical for another is that if we believe that, we have bought into relativism. Relativism is a very dangerous thought pattern that is fluent throughout our culture and now the Church. There are absolutes, in our culture through established laws, but especially in God's Word. The problem is that most Christians do not study intently on Scripture and truly search and search for their answers. The answers to our problems usually can be found in God's Word. One must be diligent in studying and applying Scripture, as well as questioning the traditions of others. The Bereans are an excellent example of listening to the opinion of others and then searching Scripture to see if it were so (Acts 17:11)!
Having a clear faith, based on the creed of the church, is often labeled today as a fundamentalism....Whereas relativism, which is letting oneself be tossed and 'swept along by every wind of teaching,' looks like the only attitude acceptable to today's standards.
"We are moving toward a dictatorship of relativism which does not recognize anything as for certain and which has as its highest goal one's own ego and one's own desires." Pope Benedict XVI
I encourage you to seek the SCRIPTURE for the answer to whether or not GOD should be able to create life when He pleases or whether or not we should dictate to Him when He should have the power to create souls within someone's womb. I encourage you to not just check off this as something that is not your business or mine, but to search Scripture and have a Biblical opinion on family planning, as GOD sees it, not as man sees it.
"One of you will say to me: "Then why does God still blame us? For who resists his will?" But who are you, O man, to talk back to God? "Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, 'Why did you make me like this?' "Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for noble purposes and some for common use?" Romans 9:19-21 Who is the Potter and who is the clay? What role are we taking on in this matter of family planning? Is that role Biblical or man-ordained?
For a greater Scriptural explanation on this subject (if you are truly looking for God’s say on this), look here.
Thank you for commenting! I pray you will seek and find God's truth on this matter and embrace children as He does!